So, when someone feels compelled to give me some unsolicited advice, I ask them... "So, what experience have you had in your life that compels you to give me that advice?" And, that's when the train stops and I get to hear from their story as opposed to hearing their view of mine.
I also know that I am sharing from my own life experience when I am speaking in the first person, past tense... "When that thing happened, I learned..."... and I know that I am slipping into giving advice when I am speaking from the second person, present tense... "Here's what you oughta do... now."
Not that there's anything wrong with giving advice. I just haven't found unsolicited advice all that helpful in my life.
So, the next time someone starts giving you unwanted advice, here's what you oughta do...
Onward!
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