A member in the group asked me a question that struck a chord. "Vince, it sounds like you are assuming that the other person is holding an old picture of you. It doesn't sound like you've let their perceptions of you evolve. I wonder what picture they are holding of you today?"
What?!? Let me unpack this.
Sometimes, when I am believing something to be true (in this case, how I am being viewed by someone), no amount of contrary evidence can alter the belief. I cling to the certainty of my belief. On the other hand, when I'm open to challenging the long-held belief, all the evidence can be put in the balance and I can choose a new belief. I teach this stuff! Damn.
Another opportunity to have a look, let go, accept myself, update the belief, and continue the journey.